Sunday, April 26, 2009

Empty Nesting?

Dear All,
Well, I thought I might write some sort of explanation here as to why I still live at home with my grown children...I have often had fleeting moments, hours, sometimes days, where I dream of everyone being moved out and on their own (empty nest). I think of the possibility of paying off the neverending bills, dropping down to parttime at work and going back to school to get a degree in psychology for counseling parents and children, the house echoing with my lone footsteps...It looked like I might get my wish for a while. Now, with the recession, I am beginning to accept that the dream will have to wait. We have all been overwhelmed lately trying to stay "on plan", and never having time to see each other, much less stop and smell any roses. So, after much discussion we've decided to take the slower, but saner, route to success, and happiness. We are going to enjoy interdependence a little longer; and therefore have more time together, and more prosperity, instead of poverty. Brandon had an epiphany recently (with help from Bishop); that he was concentrating all his energy on school, and little on God (whom he loves), church(which he loves), family(which he loves more), or excercise(which he needs) etc. After the rest of us took a similar inventory, we discovered we also need more balance in our lives. Christine also was too heavy on the schooling end, Kimberly has been madly paying off the bills she accumulated while in school (paid off now), and she's forgotten how to relax, and me? I have been working like mad at work and home, like some sort of martyr to keep everything going!
This semester ends in May, and then Brandon and Christine will be working more at work (they were both off on medical leave for much of this year), and at home(to help me out). Kimberly is making more time for friends and family now that her bills are paid off, and is calmly searching for a job in her field of study. Hollywood says they won't be hiring til next year, so she really just needs another internship to stay in the loop. I, will try to let the house remain more cluttered, and accept all the help I get there, as well as sign up for one class in the fall. My dream of going part time at work (or even dropping overtime hours) will have to wait. The debt will get paid off ,eventually, and I will get my Bachelor's someday anyway. Good news...The kids are going to try and get pregnant, with my blessings, next year sometime. You heard it here first. Whether or not they have their own place, with my approval! I am hoping to add on to my home, one master suite and bathroom, as well as renovate the place, in a manner that allows for a more open floor plan. I kind of like the idea of some strong construction type guys working on my house. Okay I'm old, but not dead. Now that I'm on dayshift, I can actually plan some improvements. I hope the bank is as excited about the possibilities as I am! I can't wait to be a grandma, and I'm so glad that Brandon and Christine have decided not to wait any longer to bless all our lives with a baby! They will have been married 3 years this June. So my worries about having an empty nest, will have to wait a couple more years. Who wants to be lonely anyway? I don't need to hear my footsteps echoing in an empty house. On with the adventure! Love Kim

2 comments:

Grammie said...

What a great update on y'all! Loved hearing from you. I, too, need to update my blog. Maybe I will do that while I am in Illinois next week for Jacque's graduation. I think I might have some time then to stop and smell the roses. So much is happening around here, too, ust trying to keep this body of mine all in one piece and working. Give all the kids a hug and you too fro me. Luv yu lots, Auntie Kathy

Jacque said...

I saw Mom's comment and thought...Kathy...who's that?!? It's too funny to see her use that name now...after so many years. It's so good to hear from you...hope we can be together soon. My big girl is DYING to lay on the beach in California again...she is convinced it is the utopia!