Dear All,
I don't know how to get through the day anymore without dosing off. Everyone keeps asking me if I'm sick. Which just means "You look terrible". I was sick earlier this month, I am 52 years old, and I do get up at 430am and I do work a 12.5 hr shift, and I don't bounce back like I used to. I am peddling the stationary bike for 15-20 minutes most days to try and get in shape, and I watch what I eat and try to destress by scripture reading and prayer. Anyway, at least 3 people have asked me if I'm sick today. And I thought I was having a good hair day! I am trying not to get depressed but it is discouraging!
I plan to go to San Diego with Kimberly and Nina tomorrow, for the day to see the animals at Sea World; get some sun, and excercise, and have some fun. I hear it might rain. We still might go anyway. I have 3 days off; and boy do I need them! I have been working a little overtime lately, but apparently I can't do that anymore with out looking like I'm coming down with something. Can't wait to see my beloved sea otters; now they know how to relax. I usually have to go someplace so that I can keep from doing something at home. It always does me good. I have an annual pass that will expire in early June. We will have to eat cheap while there as I am on a strict budget...More on that later. Love Kim
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Empty Nesting?
Dear All,
Well, I thought I might write some sort of explanation here as to why I still live at home with my grown children...I have often had fleeting moments, hours, sometimes days, where I dream of everyone being moved out and on their own (empty nest). I think of the possibility of paying off the neverending bills, dropping down to parttime at work and going back to school to get a degree in psychology for counseling parents and children, the house echoing with my lone footsteps...It looked like I might get my wish for a while. Now, with the recession, I am beginning to accept that the dream will have to wait. We have all been overwhelmed lately trying to stay "on plan", and never having time to see each other, much less stop and smell any roses. So, after much discussion we've decided to take the slower, but saner, route to success, and happiness. We are going to enjoy interdependence a little longer; and therefore have more time together, and more prosperity, instead of poverty. Brandon had an epiphany recently (with help from Bishop); that he was concentrating all his energy on school, and little on God (whom he loves), church(which he loves), family(which he loves more), or excercise(which he needs) etc. After the rest of us took a similar inventory, we discovered we also need more balance in our lives. Christine also was too heavy on the schooling end, Kimberly has been madly paying off the bills she accumulated while in school (paid off now), and she's forgotten how to relax, and me? I have been working like mad at work and home, like some sort of martyr to keep everything going!
This semester ends in May, and then Brandon and Christine will be working more at work (they were both off on medical leave for much of this year), and at home(to help me out). Kimberly is making more time for friends and family now that her bills are paid off, and is calmly searching for a job in her field of study. Hollywood says they won't be hiring til next year, so she really just needs another internship to stay in the loop. I, will try to let the house remain more cluttered, and accept all the help I get there, as well as sign up for one class in the fall. My dream of going part time at work (or even dropping overtime hours) will have to wait. The debt will get paid off ,eventually, and I will get my Bachelor's someday anyway. Good news...The kids are going to try and get pregnant, with my blessings, next year sometime. You heard it here first. Whether or not they have their own place, with my approval! I am hoping to add on to my home, one master suite and bathroom, as well as renovate the place, in a manner that allows for a more open floor plan. I kind of like the idea of some strong construction type guys working on my house. Okay I'm old, but not dead. Now that I'm on dayshift, I can actually plan some improvements. I hope the bank is as excited about the possibilities as I am! I can't wait to be a grandma, and I'm so glad that Brandon and Christine have decided not to wait any longer to bless all our lives with a baby! They will have been married 3 years this June. So my worries about having an empty nest, will have to wait a couple more years. Who wants to be lonely anyway? I don't need to hear my footsteps echoing in an empty house. On with the adventure! Love Kim
Well, I thought I might write some sort of explanation here as to why I still live at home with my grown children...I have often had fleeting moments, hours, sometimes days, where I dream of everyone being moved out and on their own (empty nest). I think of the possibility of paying off the neverending bills, dropping down to parttime at work and going back to school to get a degree in psychology for counseling parents and children, the house echoing with my lone footsteps...It looked like I might get my wish for a while. Now, with the recession, I am beginning to accept that the dream will have to wait. We have all been overwhelmed lately trying to stay "on plan", and never having time to see each other, much less stop and smell any roses. So, after much discussion we've decided to take the slower, but saner, route to success, and happiness. We are going to enjoy interdependence a little longer; and therefore have more time together, and more prosperity, instead of poverty. Brandon had an epiphany recently (with help from Bishop); that he was concentrating all his energy on school, and little on God (whom he loves), church(which he loves), family(which he loves more), or excercise(which he needs) etc. After the rest of us took a similar inventory, we discovered we also need more balance in our lives. Christine also was too heavy on the schooling end, Kimberly has been madly paying off the bills she accumulated while in school (paid off now), and she's forgotten how to relax, and me? I have been working like mad at work and home, like some sort of martyr to keep everything going!
This semester ends in May, and then Brandon and Christine will be working more at work (they were both off on medical leave for much of this year), and at home(to help me out). Kimberly is making more time for friends and family now that her bills are paid off, and is calmly searching for a job in her field of study. Hollywood says they won't be hiring til next year, so she really just needs another internship to stay in the loop. I, will try to let the house remain more cluttered, and accept all the help I get there, as well as sign up for one class in the fall. My dream of going part time at work (or even dropping overtime hours) will have to wait. The debt will get paid off ,eventually, and I will get my Bachelor's someday anyway. Good news...The kids are going to try and get pregnant, with my blessings, next year sometime. You heard it here first. Whether or not they have their own place, with my approval! I am hoping to add on to my home, one master suite and bathroom, as well as renovate the place, in a manner that allows for a more open floor plan. I kind of like the idea of some strong construction type guys working on my house. Okay I'm old, but not dead. Now that I'm on dayshift, I can actually plan some improvements. I hope the bank is as excited about the possibilities as I am! I can't wait to be a grandma, and I'm so glad that Brandon and Christine have decided not to wait any longer to bless all our lives with a baby! They will have been married 3 years this June. So my worries about having an empty nest, will have to wait a couple more years. Who wants to be lonely anyway? I don't need to hear my footsteps echoing in an empty house. On with the adventure! Love Kim
Saturday, April 25, 2009
What do you think of my hair?
Dear all,
I can not believe that it has been so long since I posted a note! The computer is on the fritz, and I don't like to borrow the laptops unless I need to pay the bills. Those of you who are waiting for me to answer their emails...I have over 300 pieces to sort through! I wanted to post something about being easily offended and slow to forgive. I really want those I love to be slow to be offended, and quick to forgive. Especially when writing, it is so easy to be misunderstood. No facial expressions, or tone, to alter one's meanings. I find that it always helps to talk, talk, talk, until both parties understand each other. Keeping it in the "I feel thus, when you blah, blah, blah...is one excercise which seems to help. Also, repeating back what you think the person is saying to the person is a great way to get clarification. ie Are you saying...? or Do you mean...? It is also allowable to say..."You know, I'm feeling kind of irritable today so please...". Someday these misunderstandings will be foder for laughter if handled the correct way. For instance...My son hates spiders. I mean he really hates them. So the other day he was balancing on his bed and trying to check the drapes for the critters when...he lost his balance, and in flailing around grabbed the head of his Goofy phone and it, of course, came off in his hand! He brought it to me, heartbroken, to see if I thought it could be fixed. He is 27. Now, I did not laugh...then. Much later, I did have a chuckle, and I am sure someday soon he will too. I marvel at my restraint! The point is funny things, and not so funny things, happen in life; and sometimes its best to refrain from comment for a moment or even a season. This same son, when asked yesterday by his lovely wife, what he thought of her new hairstyle for the ball, said without thinking "it's messy", or "it's a mess" depending upon whom you ask. Many tears later, and after much advice from sister and mother, we let them solve it themselves. Since they were both still at my house when I woke up this am for work, I assume they are fine; and Kimberly and I have a funny family story to tell. I'm sure they too will think it funny someday. It is like the question "do these pants make me look fat?" . Always, always, always, say "No!"(if you are the husband). Hope you all are seeing the glass as half full and finding the funny times to remember. Love Kim
I can not believe that it has been so long since I posted a note! The computer is on the fritz, and I don't like to borrow the laptops unless I need to pay the bills. Those of you who are waiting for me to answer their emails...I have over 300 pieces to sort through! I wanted to post something about being easily offended and slow to forgive. I really want those I love to be slow to be offended, and quick to forgive. Especially when writing, it is so easy to be misunderstood. No facial expressions, or tone, to alter one's meanings. I find that it always helps to talk, talk, talk, until both parties understand each other. Keeping it in the "I feel thus, when you blah, blah, blah...is one excercise which seems to help. Also, repeating back what you think the person is saying to the person is a great way to get clarification. ie Are you saying...? or Do you mean...? It is also allowable to say..."You know, I'm feeling kind of irritable today so please...". Someday these misunderstandings will be foder for laughter if handled the correct way. For instance...My son hates spiders. I mean he really hates them. So the other day he was balancing on his bed and trying to check the drapes for the critters when...he lost his balance, and in flailing around grabbed the head of his Goofy phone and it, of course, came off in his hand! He brought it to me, heartbroken, to see if I thought it could be fixed. He is 27. Now, I did not laugh...then. Much later, I did have a chuckle, and I am sure someday soon he will too. I marvel at my restraint! The point is funny things, and not so funny things, happen in life; and sometimes its best to refrain from comment for a moment or even a season. This same son, when asked yesterday by his lovely wife, what he thought of her new hairstyle for the ball, said without thinking "it's messy", or "it's a mess" depending upon whom you ask. Many tears later, and after much advice from sister and mother, we let them solve it themselves. Since they were both still at my house when I woke up this am for work, I assume they are fine; and Kimberly and I have a funny family story to tell. I'm sure they too will think it funny someday. It is like the question "do these pants make me look fat?" . Always, always, always, say "No!"(if you are the husband). Hope you all are seeing the glass as half full and finding the funny times to remember. Love Kim
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